Start With The Human In The Mirror

The first chapter of volume 1 of Desserts will make it's debut here 

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While I’ve been expecting my newborn son to arrive, I’ve been

paired up with a home nurse who comes to visit me every two 

weeks. During our last session together we started to work on a 

thing called a “Life History Calender.” I guess it’s kind of a way 

for us to get to know each other better. But it really got me 

thinking.

I almost didn’t want to partake in this activity because, the truth is, 

there has been so much bad that’s taken place in my life. I’ve made 

so manny errors and bad decisions. The story of my family and I is 

so not perfect at all. I worried that my nurse would finally see that 

I’m too flawed to be a good mom. But what parents aren’t flawed?

When I first started writing Desserts, I wanted to use it as a way to 

chastise my parents for all the hurtful things that happened in my 

life. I wanted to blame them for my trauma and lack of guidance. 

But, ever since becoming pregnant, two realizations have made me 

see why doing that would be all wrong.
1) Just because our parents are grown, does not mean that they 

aren’t still growing up. We are all just very imperfect human 

beings 

who are trying to guide our children in the right way while we 

ourselves are still learning how to navigate life. Though I can try 

my hardest to protect and guide my son in the right ways, as he 

grows older he will see more and more that, just like everyone 

else, I’m not perfect.

2) My family was dealt a bad hand in life a lot of the times, but my 

parents always tried their best to show me and my siblings love 

and keep us safe. I would be lying if I said that I never made very 

poor decisions in response to my situations, despite knowing 

better. 

I chose to lash out at my family and became too stubborn to follow 

their guidance. Most of the things that hurt me the most in life 

where caused by me, my actions.

How different my life would be right now if I'd only done 

everything right, the way I knew I was supposed to.

Maybe the good part is that now I can learn from all the past errors 

my parents and I made. Maybe this was all meant to make me a 

better mom with a healthier mind.

And maybe I wouldn’t have learned all that I know now if I’d done 

everything right.